Simple advice when regrets haunt your memories is to stay calm, breathe and look forward.
Getting engaged to prepare for your marriage is a huge step in your personal growth. The romance may fade; the lessons will continue; and together you will learn how to navigate communication, compassion and patience.
When you get into a 'tiff' during the preparation for your wedding (or afterwards), remember that it is an opportunity for growth. It's Lesson1 or Lesson 2 in your destination to a long-term relationship. Both of you will 'push each other's buttons', buttons that need oiling and replacing. All those 'old' habits of conditioned responses or old beliefs will have a spotlight on them. The best approach is with one of knowing that this lesson, too, shall pass and it will make your relationship stronger and more real. What has been hidden, will be exposed. What has been unspoken, will be said. That's the way of growing a marriage strong.
So don't look back at those 'tiffs' with regret. Stay the course and maybe next time, your lesson will be easier because you've learned how to approach your loved one in a way that supports growth not deterioration.
My encouragement is not to look back on what has happened, not to have any regrets. Regret is from the world of conditioning. What happened happened. We start over in each moment, here and now.
- Cheri Huber
Serving Berks, Montgomery & Lehigh Counties of Pennsylvania
Ordained Wedding Officiant Paula Mari Tepedino
Ordained Non-denominational Wedding Officiant in Berks, Montgomery & Lehigh Counties