|Posted on February 8, 2017 at 10:45 AM|
My father who was married to my mother for 65 years until she passed from leukemia 6 years ago knows how to preserve love. He asked me this the other day, "Paula, you know how to stay married?". And of course I said, "No, how, Dad, do you stay married?" And he said with a straight face, "Don't get divorced."
At first, I thought it was a joke. And he seems like one. Yet that is the answer. Don't get divorced. For him, no matter what, he stayed, mom stayed, they talked it out, fought, loved. Their marriage, for those of us outside of it, looked tumultous sometimes and very rocky, especially in the early days. And yet, seeing them sitting together at the kitchen table talking over coffee about their worries, their strifes, was the most endearing ever.
Sometimes, people are mean and violent and abusive. So use your best sense to know whether the marriage is done or not in those cases.
My parent's marriage wasn't like that. It had the normal ups and downs of everyday life - finance strains, raising children, savings/spendings, where to live.
And now, Dad as the widower, not married anymore, still preserves his Love for Mom, every day. I see him sharing more of his Love with his neighbors, cooking for them when they are sick - something he never did when Mom was alive. He shares his NY Post with the widow down the street who has tough times right now so she doesn't have to buy one. He's into feeding all the birds in the neighborhoods. He keeps that Love going in ways that amazes me everyday.
That, my dear friends, is true Love. It never dies. it never fades away. It remains even when form doesn't. Love. Preserve it Today.
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